I am deep in debt. I am close to having my car repoed, my electric shut off, my phone turned off, but these are such minor things.
My daughter Elizabeth leaves for the Marines tomorrow morning. She is at the MEPS center now, she gets her final swearing in and leaves for bootcamp tomorrow. I will not have contact with her for two weeks, minimum. After that, it will be through snail mail for another couple of weeks, with maybe a brief phone call or two.
My baby is an adult. She is a well rounded strong adult. She is determined, she is intelligent, she is beautiful. So why can I not see any of this. Why do i see a little toddler running around needing a diaper change. Why can I only see she needs me? Is it because I need her? Is it because she is my life and I need her more than she needs me>? Is it because she is one of the pieces of the puzzle that validates me and my life? Is it because I need to hug and make her all better and she doesnt need me to do this anymore? Why all questions?
i know she has the mental and physical fortitude to survive boot camp, I know she is an intelligent adult with a strong sense of right and wrong. I know this is her dream. But I know she is my baby and that is supposed to be first and foremost isnt it?
Tuesday, September 30, 2008
Friday, September 26, 2008
September 26, 2008
Welcome to "The Real Typical Family"
Everything you are about to read is real and happening. Nothing is exaggerated, nothing is made up. It is all current and true. It is the story of a struggling middle class family. The hopes and dreams, the financial crisis, the emotional meltdowns. The real struggles, not what TV wants you to see and hear, not what the politicians think is going on.
Like 75% of America, we are not trash,we are hard working, honest and loving, we just cant get by.
I will start our saga with today and what is happening and fill in the blanks as the story goes on, feel free to ask questions, as so many things go on, I might forget to include all pertinent details.
If you need a character background (as many will be introduced please just ask)
Characters (all real names changed)
Sophia is a 43 year old Italian female, raised by upper middle class parents. She went to a private high school, graduated on time, and while a bit rambunctios was a good kid. Things went bad after graduation, lots of alcohol was involved, she got pregnant at 19 had a baby at 20, no baby's daddy in the picture. She later married her high school sweetheart to settle into a 16 year abusive marriage.After several failed relationships following the divorce, she met and fell in love with her soulmate. Sophia has three daughters Isabella 23, Elizabeth 17 and Emily 16. She also has a son by George, his name is George also.
George is a 45 yr old Irish male, raised in a broken family. He has fought for everything in his life and been screwed many many times. He is a determined, honest, old fashioned gentleman in every sense of the word. Served in the navy for 13 years, and the Army reserves for 5, saw action overseas many times. He has two daughters, Roberta 18 and Allison 20 and a 2.5 yr old son George. Allison has a 4 month old daughter, we will call her Bella, because she is absolutely beautiful.
Isabella is a 23 year old, extremely spoiled young lady. She was the first grandchild and first great grandchild in Sophia's family. She was raised by her mother with the help of her grandparents who catered to her every whim. She was a bit of a wild child in her teens but never a bad girl.
She is currently living with and dating Todd. They both live in Sophia and George's house. She works hard as a animal care specialist
Elizabeth is 17, just joined the marines. She leaves for bootcamp in a couple of weeks and is thrilled. Elizabeth is the perfect child (had her rough spots) but was on the outside a dream to raise. Quite often she was the instigator and planner of certain events, but was always far away when trouble broke out.
Emily is 16 and calls herself a princess, dresses and acts like one to cover her many insecurities. She is a very materialistic young lady and believes its all what you go and who you know over what you know. She is demanding and spoiled. She wants what she wants when she wants. She just moved from Sophia's house to her dad's house in another state.
Asshole, (only included because he will be referred to quite often) He does not deserve a name. He plays the girls against Sophia just to win. He is a jealous fool who finally got what he asked for and doesnt like it one bit. Is very jealous of Sophia and tries to cut her down every chance he gets. Asshole knows by raising his voice he can make Sophia cower, but doesnt realize as soon as the sound of his voice is gone, she gets over him now.
September 26, 2008
Sophia wakes up at 3:30 am with George to see him off to work. He is a paramedic/firefighter taking some classes for his national license. Today he is working in a mental facility for the required clinical hours for 12 hours then off to his regular job to finish off the remaining 12 hours.
She is not even close to rested as Elizabeth left last night to go to her dad's house to say goodbye and have a going away party before she ships out. Isabella and Todd drove her there since they were going to visit family and friends. Sophia makes coffee with the thoughts of the piled up bills, car payment is 3 months behind, ready for repo but there are only six payments left. Cell phone bill is at 800 (they do not have a landline). Electric is at 600 because she just paid 600 over the course of a week to keep from being shut off. Rent is due in a week just in time to eat up the entire paycheck and have nothing left over to pay any of the remaining bills.
George is under a ton of stress, knowing as hard as he works and studies he is going to have to find another job and work 36 hour shifts 7 days a week.........it is the only way to catch up.
Sophia kisses George off to work and sets about seeing what she can sell through the classified, her daughter Emily calls and wants to come visit for a week. How to rearrange the money to pay for tickets is now the priority. She hasnt seen Emily in a month and if she doesnt get her here this week it will be at least another month before she can come. She explains to Emily that she will buy the tickets but, that the rest of the week will be spent in the house there is no more money left. She feeds George jr. and plays for a while, looking at the mess the kitchen is in and not having the energy to do anything about it. Depression is in full swing despite the fight to keep it at bay.
She calls the cell company and the best arrangement is 400 due on Oct 3, now to find a way to have the money in the account and still have another 400 for a car payment and another 1350 for rent. Wow that doesnt sound bad, but that means no food, no gas to get to work for George. Craigs list ads are doing nothing at this point. She contemplates returning to work, but, the cost of gas and childcare is just not worth it. The difference would only be 200 a month.
She takes a percoset for the tooth pain and puts Fish antibiotics on the shopping list. She h as been suffering recurring tooth abcesses but cant afford to have her teeth fixed. Cant afford a dentist for penicillan. She has tried to get medical coverage but is told her household income is too much. Has tried to use free clinics but they never answer the phone or do dental. Emergency room is not an option, they charge.
As the pain killers only slightly numb the pain she spends an afternoon walking mindlessly around the house trying to see what can be sold. Looks like we are gonna try and sell Grammas china set.........the only thing left from the one person she ever truly trusted and loved.
Everything you are about to read is real and happening. Nothing is exaggerated, nothing is made up. It is all current and true. It is the story of a struggling middle class family. The hopes and dreams, the financial crisis, the emotional meltdowns. The real struggles, not what TV wants you to see and hear, not what the politicians think is going on.
Like 75% of America, we are not trash,we are hard working, honest and loving, we just cant get by.
I will start our saga with today and what is happening and fill in the blanks as the story goes on, feel free to ask questions, as so many things go on, I might forget to include all pertinent details.
If you need a character background (as many will be introduced please just ask)
Characters (all real names changed)
Sophia is a 43 year old Italian female, raised by upper middle class parents. She went to a private high school, graduated on time, and while a bit rambunctios was a good kid. Things went bad after graduation, lots of alcohol was involved, she got pregnant at 19 had a baby at 20, no baby's daddy in the picture. She later married her high school sweetheart to settle into a 16 year abusive marriage.After several failed relationships following the divorce, she met and fell in love with her soulmate. Sophia has three daughters Isabella 23, Elizabeth 17 and Emily 16. She also has a son by George, his name is George also.
George is a 45 yr old Irish male, raised in a broken family. He has fought for everything in his life and been screwed many many times. He is a determined, honest, old fashioned gentleman in every sense of the word. Served in the navy for 13 years, and the Army reserves for 5, saw action overseas many times. He has two daughters, Roberta 18 and Allison 20 and a 2.5 yr old son George. Allison has a 4 month old daughter, we will call her Bella, because she is absolutely beautiful.
Isabella is a 23 year old, extremely spoiled young lady. She was the first grandchild and first great grandchild in Sophia's family. She was raised by her mother with the help of her grandparents who catered to her every whim. She was a bit of a wild child in her teens but never a bad girl.
She is currently living with and dating Todd. They both live in Sophia and George's house. She works hard as a animal care specialist
Elizabeth is 17, just joined the marines. She leaves for bootcamp in a couple of weeks and is thrilled. Elizabeth is the perfect child (had her rough spots) but was on the outside a dream to raise. Quite often she was the instigator and planner of certain events, but was always far away when trouble broke out.
Emily is 16 and calls herself a princess, dresses and acts like one to cover her many insecurities. She is a very materialistic young lady and believes its all what you go and who you know over what you know. She is demanding and spoiled. She wants what she wants when she wants. She just moved from Sophia's house to her dad's house in another state.
Asshole, (only included because he will be referred to quite often) He does not deserve a name. He plays the girls against Sophia just to win. He is a jealous fool who finally got what he asked for and doesnt like it one bit. Is very jealous of Sophia and tries to cut her down every chance he gets. Asshole knows by raising his voice he can make Sophia cower, but doesnt realize as soon as the sound of his voice is gone, she gets over him now.
September 26, 2008
Sophia wakes up at 3:30 am with George to see him off to work. He is a paramedic/firefighter taking some classes for his national license. Today he is working in a mental facility for the required clinical hours for 12 hours then off to his regular job to finish off the remaining 12 hours.
She is not even close to rested as Elizabeth left last night to go to her dad's house to say goodbye and have a going away party before she ships out. Isabella and Todd drove her there since they were going to visit family and friends. Sophia makes coffee with the thoughts of the piled up bills, car payment is 3 months behind, ready for repo but there are only six payments left. Cell phone bill is at 800 (they do not have a landline). Electric is at 600 because she just paid 600 over the course of a week to keep from being shut off. Rent is due in a week just in time to eat up the entire paycheck and have nothing left over to pay any of the remaining bills.
George is under a ton of stress, knowing as hard as he works and studies he is going to have to find another job and work 36 hour shifts 7 days a week.........it is the only way to catch up.
Sophia kisses George off to work and sets about seeing what she can sell through the classified, her daughter Emily calls and wants to come visit for a week. How to rearrange the money to pay for tickets is now the priority. She hasnt seen Emily in a month and if she doesnt get her here this week it will be at least another month before she can come. She explains to Emily that she will buy the tickets but, that the rest of the week will be spent in the house there is no more money left. She feeds George jr. and plays for a while, looking at the mess the kitchen is in and not having the energy to do anything about it. Depression is in full swing despite the fight to keep it at bay.
She calls the cell company and the best arrangement is 400 due on Oct 3, now to find a way to have the money in the account and still have another 400 for a car payment and another 1350 for rent. Wow that doesnt sound bad, but that means no food, no gas to get to work for George. Craigs list ads are doing nothing at this point. She contemplates returning to work, but, the cost of gas and childcare is just not worth it. The difference would only be 200 a month.
She takes a percoset for the tooth pain and puts Fish antibiotics on the shopping list. She h as been suffering recurring tooth abcesses but cant afford to have her teeth fixed. Cant afford a dentist for penicillan. She has tried to get medical coverage but is told her household income is too much. Has tried to use free clinics but they never answer the phone or do dental. Emergency room is not an option, they charge.
As the pain killers only slightly numb the pain she spends an afternoon walking mindlessly around the house trying to see what can be sold. Looks like we are gonna try and sell Grammas china set.........the only thing left from the one person she ever truly trusted and loved.
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